date a girl who been with white?

eye_candy1870 · Joined: 08 May 2003 Posts: 86

If i knew a chiense girl who had dated a white guy i wouldnt touch her with a barge pole. I am serious.

why?

1. It shows her mentality for a start. i woudnt be able to communicate with someone who would stoop so low.
2. If i married that girl, i couldnt look my kids in the eye and say your mother slept with a white guy. no chance.
3. aids/std's. would the guys sleep with a chiense girl without a jimmy knowing she shagged a white guy? No chance.
4.Lastly and most important, i dont go for rejects of any race (My GF has NEVER been with another man). why? check me below...(when i was 16)

Guest · Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2003 8:32 am Post subject:

Funny you should say that....my chinese friend is going out with a bbv girl, but he told me that he would never marry her because she's been with a black guy.

But I don't see a problem. Hey I've been with white girls.

It's actually quite offensive to say what you've just said Eyecandy. Actually it's racist.

You've made very general assumptions about chinese girls who sleep with white guys.

Ah Rong

Starlet · Joined: 26 May 2003 Posts: 14

(sigh) I don't know what is worse: having to cope with prejudices and racist attitudes outside the chinese community or having to contend with such intolerance and ignorance coming from within.

Eye_candy - how about if I take your comments and reverse them:

"If i knew a chiense guy who had dated a white girl i wouldnt touch him with a barge pole. I am serious.

why?

1. It shows his mentality for a start. i woudnt be able to communicate with someone who would stoop so low.
2. If i married that guy, i couldnt look my kids in the eye and say your father slept with a white woman. no chance.
3. aids/std's. would the girls sleep with a chiense guy without a jimmy knowing he shagged a white girl? No chance. "

For me to entertain such ideas is repulsive, offensive, sexist and racist. I do not hold any of these views. But is it interesting? You feel perfectly comfortable attacking chinese women who have dated/are dating white guys. Does your attitude then not apply once turned around? How many of these comments if you apply them to you (I read in one of your previous postings that you have dated white girls) are inaccurate? How do you feel about that?

eye_candy1870 · Joined: 08 May 2003 Posts: 86

Mr Ah rong,

your mates gf been with a black guy?? haaaaaaaaa...ask YOU a question would u marry a girl who been jacked by a black man or a pakistani (forget the white man option). Be honest now...DONT be PC. hell nah

To, starlet,

Lifes a bitch, as i mentioned i made mistakes that i will have to live with for the rest of my life. MY BBC gf does mention that fact ive been with white girls almost daily. When we have kids they will probably find out from her...as i said, i am ashamed of this...you cant turn back the clock. If i could i would no doubt.

You pose an interesting point about flipping the argument on its head and saying what if a chinese man had been with a white girl.

I read an interesting article in yesterdays Times article about Nancy DELL’OLIO response to Sven goran Erikkson's affair . I quote,

"Physical infidelity is not the end of the world. It is different for men and women. Women are usually more emotionally involved but men generally don’t need to be emotionally involved to have an affair".

i think i would have expressed it slighlty more bluntly by saying ' P***Y is P***Y. LOL

[I am in total agreement with this (subjective) statment of miss Dell'olio]

emem · Joined: 22 May 2003 Posts: 39

Physical Infidelity statement of yours, Eyecandy, is not true; some women walks off better than men especially when the guy had been such a jerk.

And, I have to say, though I am against giving in own culture to another culture; your last two post are horrible. Plainly.

I have been out with white men, white women, chinese men and chinese women (In case anybody is going to make an offensive statement on my choice of sexuality, "It's none of your business"). With your statement; I am telling you, on the mix race relationship subject you are just CHILDISH.

By the way, I consider myself a FOB, coz I grew up in Asia. But FOB has more cultural pride than the American Chinese friends I have. Reason a lot of FOB dated white is the same reason why we tried our first French dinner/ wine or something like that. Some like it a lot, and marry one; some dislike it, and decided to go back to rice eating people. But, FOB are not necessary those who go out with Whites. They might try it, but I doubt many will stay on. After all, how long can you stand having constipation by the change of eating habit?
(so many friends complain about the lack of vegetables & rice in their food, and they are FED UP with big chuck of fish/chicken/meat when they go out with white)

People who grew up in the west are just different from those who grew up in Asia. Let's face it, there's a cultural clash between East Asians who grew up in the West and the East Asians who grew up in Far East. Some who grew up here might prefer white than yellow, coz they settle to white people's culture(that they are used to) than to have a cultural shock with Pop music; Japanese/Korean/HK/Taiwan soap Opera; Animation (animation pornography)....etc list of all the things that developed in Asia for the past 20 years that their parents have no knowledge of.

On this complicated issue of upholding own culture and dating people, and resist going into McDonald's because "ain't going to feed the corporate American & Anglo Saxon greed"; I only will tell you this, if you are so damn proud of being Chinese, post your next message in Chinese language then!
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eye_candy1870 · Joined: 08 May 2003 Posts: 86

emem,

I would like to clarify one point here. I have no problem what so ever with chiense girl and white girl. I really can understand that a woman can do a better job than a man in some areas.

I was just interested what role you played in this relationship>? Consider the following scenarios :

1. Butch butt ugly chiense girl & butch butt ugly white girl.
2. Submissive petite chinese girl & bob the builder looking white girl.
3. Pretty chinese girl playing female role & one ear ring white girl playing male role.
4. pretty chiense girl & plain jane white girl.
5. pretty chinese girl & pretty white girl.

which one applys to you? or are u in the 'other' category?

sp · Joined: 27 Feb 2003 Posts: 218

Editor · Site Admin Joined: 21 Feb 2003 Posts: 215

Eye candy

As I have requested on your previous thread, please use this forum sensibly. It's really simple - abide by the rules or get chucked off.

We all know your racist and sexist views, and frankly I don't think that there is any room for them on this message board. There is absolutely no need to post or reply to other members of this board in such an infantile and abusive manner.

The only person you are showing up is yourself. So, once again please refrain from continuing or you will get chucked off.

emem · Joined: 22 May 2003 Posts: 39

Thanks editor!

PS to the weird guy suggesting the stereotype gay girls scenerio: I am in
Pretty Chinese girl with Pretty Thai girl. Always had been only out with feminine girl, and I am feminine too. You should get out more to see what's going on in the world.
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ghomacpher · Joined: 06 Apr 2003 Posts: 4 Location: London

As I said, thank God there is a sensible editor, the world can do with fewer sexist and racist people. Grace

[quote="Editor"]Eye candy

As I have requested on your previous thread, please use this forum sensibly. It's really simple - abide by the rules or get chucked off.

We all know your racist and sexist views, and frankly I don't think that there is any room for them on this message board. There is absolutely no need to post or reply to other members of this board in such an infantile and abusive manner.

The only person you are showing up is yourself. So, once again please refrain from continuing or you will get chucked off.[/quote]
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Guest · Posted: Wed Sep 17, 2003 2:34 pm Post subject:

I thought this was a message board and to me freedom of speach counts rergardless if it is racist and in your face?
Although i dont agree with the way eye-candy has written his opinions, as they are offensive, I feel if he can back up his opinion with sufficent logic for others to actually understand then his opinion does count!

I express this opinion because i stumbled across this site and thought I would join. I am a white girl who is very interested in the SE Asian culture, how we are percieved as 'whites' and how we all intergrate into society.

Lets add another spin on this (and I am NOT being racist) what makes the Asian community as an 'ethnic minority' come to the UK to live but feel that they can not intergrate into 'white' ways, ie: in this case g/f / b/f / husband / wife etc. Does background, religion, generations of family or history not allow you to do this?

My ultimate aim is to move to SE Asia and retire there for a happy ending to my life, I would like to know how would I intergrate into that kind of environment if I came with a white partner? Would I be frowned upon, would I be welcomed?

kwls · Joined: 16 Sep 2003 Posts: 3 Location: KL

Hi Slagatha,

No, you will not be frowned upon in SE Asia even if you come with a "white partner". I'm not a BBC. I live in KL, Malaysia and white folks are seen as normal in this part of the world. You'll feel quite the same in Singapore, Thailand, basically SE Asian countries. Of course, it varies from country to country as for the treatment of white folks. Probably, in Bangkok, you'll feel the attention, perhaps too much from the locals. As for Singapore and Malaysia, especially the British who have been here since the 18th century, you guys are part of this society. If you do enjoy going out with the locals mix around and don't mind the little things that you don't find back in the UK, then it's gonna be fun, that I can promise you.

Regards,
Kelly

Guest · Posted: Thu Sep 18, 2003 8:13 am Post subject:

Hey Kwls, thanks for your reply! :0)

You mention that I will be fine intregrating into 'your' communities (my passion is to go to Thailand and NOT live with ex pats but to live within a Thai environment), so how come the vision eye-candy has will not allow him to 'intergrate' into society in the West? White with black, girl with man, black with Asian, girl with girl etc etc etc. What makes his way of seeing life very blinkered?

As far as I am concerned, we all have to face predjudice at some point within our lives, young or old. I myself being large and also a lesbain (andro), so instantly I belong to 2 minorities within the UK, is subject to many cruel torments from people of my own nationality let alone people who are multi raced. I choose to hold my head high and ignore the remarks and get on with my own life, these people do not have ay impact to my day to day living and I cant understand why we cant live together in harmony.
I understand that we all look different but what is normal, why cant we intergrate and have mixed marriages??

Guest · Posted: Sat Sep 20, 2003 1:38 pm Post subject:

Slagatha,
You seem to be living in a bit of a dream world. People in this world will never be able to live in harmony with each other.

You talked about prejudice not affecting your everyday live - good for you! But for some people it's a little bit different. For some people racism can mean living or dying, being beaten or put into prison, to have your own civil rights denied to you. So your large and gay - I don't think you can equate that to being Chinese or Black or basically non white living in a white dominated culture.

As for going to SE Asia to live - In China especially the more remote parts you would be seen as THE white person - people will come up to you and pester you to speak English to them. If you speak Chinese back they will be amazed. You will be ripped of by market sellers who hike up the price by a few hundred per cent.

Whoever said colour is only skin deep is very very wrong!

Ah Rong

Guest · Posted: Sat Sep 20, 2003 9:53 pm Post subject:

Ah Rong, I think I can equate being large and gay to the same as being black Chinese or any other minority. I get bullied, spoken about, pointed out just as much, probably more due to being gay, as you guys.

Personally, I dont think the world will ever live in harmony but are we all to blame for this by trying to protray a perfect world in commercialism. Perfect bodies in perfect functional lives!!!!??

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