Seeking Chinese Lesbian and Gay Community/Mates

Zen · Joined: 24 Aug 2010 Posts: 5 Location: London

I am seeking any Chinese lesbians who also happen to speak Cantonese/traditional Chinese whom we get along with.

My partner and I would like to learn more about the Chinese culture and language and so hope to meet some women who we get along with as friends who are part of the Chinese lgbt community.

We are expecting our first child in Dec and hope to also include aspects of his mixed heritage *Caribbean/Chinese* and culture during his upbringing and what better way to do so by having as much information and influence around him about where he/his parents come from as he is growing up.

We are trying to enrich his life and hope our sincere request with be taken as so.

Please feel free to PM me any resources/links or suggestion of any ongoing meets we may be welcome to join.

Smile

Alpha Male · Joined: 24 Aug 2010 Posts: 40

Looks like no one is replying? Does it remind you of that scene in Enter the Dragon when Bruce Lee's sister is trying to escape and the only way of doing so is to get a kindly neighbour to let her in but they just close the doors and windows on her?

Anyway best way to learn your child is to take them to a Peckham estate so they get a good grounding in gangsta culture, safe bro!

Zen · Joined: 24 Aug 2010 Posts: 5 Location: London

WOW, so very hostile!

Well, it's a good job I know better than to think you represent the entire thoughts and ignorant streotyping notions of this community forum.

Try not to trip on the "I am an ignorant twat" rug you walked in on, on your way out,'Alpha male' *not*...

But thanks for helping to keep this topic recent...Stop by anytime Wink

Alpha Male · Joined: 24 Aug 2010 Posts: 40

How am I being hostile? Look the kid is gonna look black and adapt easier with that culture. Just saving you a world of heartache. 99% of mixed black kids end up adapting to the black culture.

Just don't tell the kid his parents are lesbians you know how homophobic blacks can be. Wink

PS You're kid is going to be like that boy in the movie About a Boy, teased and bullied otherwise, just my friendly advice.

Edwina Lee · Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 1282 Location: High Wycombe, UK

Which asylum estate are you from Alpha Male?
It would be useful to bring up a kid just like you and become a comedian by going to the same estate.
Laughing

Edwina Lee · Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 1282 Location: High Wycombe, UK

This topic is fishy post!

abhainn · Joined: 03 Oct 2010 Posts: 2

^^^ Hey why do you think it's fishy?

I saw Zen's original post in the same forum where I've posted my own enquiry some time ago http://boards.gingerbeer.co.uk/index.php?topic=96874.0.

Me too, I have also tried to get in touch with the Chinese lgbt community but with no luck - I have many connections to Chinese culture and language through study and work and would like meet Chinese gay/lesbian people to socialise with, to learn more and to share aspects of a world view that is distinctly different to the western/English way of life.

Unfortunately it is extremely hard to find any info or an initial contact - if there is anyone in this forum who feels they could help and point me to the right direction, that would be awesome.

There was an interesting thread here http://www.dimsum.co.uk/forum/culture/topic-203.html but the website it is linking to doesn't seem to be happening Sad

Edwina Lee · Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 1282 Location: High Wycombe, UK

Hi abhainn,

It is fishy because after I private mailed, the answer I got was brief and unrevealing, I asked deeper, and never got a reply.

That suggests to me that it may be just a child playing around.

Edwina Lee · Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 1282 Location: High Wycombe, UK

If you wish to get in touch with chinese LGBT people, I suggest joining the LGBT crowd and see if you meet any chinese.

London, Manchester, Milton Keynes have big LGBT clubs.

I am TS myself.

Zen · Joined: 24 Aug 2010 Posts: 5 Location: London

Edwina Lee- I didnt reply to your second message Edwina because my partner and I were not clear as to why you wanted to know what I looked like? The questions you asked seemed to be irrelevant to our aim

You wanted to know if we were a black lesbian couple... you wnated to know what language we spoke... and therefore when reading your questions we couldnt really see the relevance in your line of questioning or where it was going? And if your interest was genuine/appropriate. I dont think that a non reply consitutues as me being disingenuous in anyway.

As for finding lgbt chinese people inthe main stream lgbt community that is the whole point... Many are not out there to find or mix with.

Abhainn- thanks for your support both here and on the other forum.

Edwina Lee · Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 1282 Location: High Wycombe, UK

Zen,

I would say that a genuine motivation to do anything (including finding chinese LGBT) is to stick with it. You did not stick with it. You lost interest in continuing the dialog.

What is wrong with asking you about your circumstance?

If you won't let me know, it implies you don't want to let me know you.

OK, now that you've told me you are a black lesbian couple, with a chinese donor father, and a son to be born in December (hospital told you).

That is all we know. Wouldn't it be nice if you told us that without having to go through private messaging in the first place?

Zen · Joined: 24 Aug 2010 Posts: 5 Location: London

We are not infact a black lesbian couple.

Most people if wanting to get to know others would introduce themsleves, I introduced myself without giving my life history, when you messaged you did not introduce yourself or tell us anything about you. you simply jumped in and asked some invasive questions and others that seemed redundant/obvious....I mean how else would someone know when a baby is due unless the hospital tells them???

Surely to get to know people you need to introduce yourself by offering them some information about who you are why you are replying/posting and leave a welcoming line open for that person to ask you questions as well as answering yours?...is that not what is called an open dialogue of conversation? A tip do not alienate potential friends by grilling them.... being welcome and friendly always works best.

I'll persue this elsewhere thanks anyway....

Edwina Lee · Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 1282 Location: High Wycombe, UK

Zen,

You keep saying you are not this and not that.

Why can't you just say we are this and we are that?

Beating round the bush is a most annoying waste of time habit.

Zen · Joined: 24 Aug 2010 Posts: 5 Location: London

sorry I was already revising my post at the same time you replied.

Lets move on...shall we.. have a great week!

Ciao

Zen

abhainn · Joined: 03 Oct 2010 Posts: 2

Hi guys,

Thanks for reply Edwina. You see, I don't really go to clubs, it's just not the sort of thing I'm into. I also live a bit out from Central London and it's not always easy to arrange the time to get to places, that's why I'm trying a more direct approach, hoping to get to know people this way. It may or may not work but is worth a shot.

There are also things like Chinese language meetup etc, but with those the difficulty is to recognize lgbt women, my radar isn't always the most accurate.

Zen, not at all, good luck with your search.

Take care ladies.

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