coffee and cigarettes

kang dàyé · Posted: Tue Aug 04, 2009 12:31 am Post subject: coffee and cigarettes

i smoke and i drink coffee, i drink coffee and i smoke. as a spoiled brat i wouldn't go to school unless my mother gave me ten woodbine or twenty pasha. my estranged owner does not allow me to smoke or drink coffee and as i mentioned in an earlier gripe insists on calling me josephine.

i had a friend who usewd to say "life is hard and then we die!" , i think he was lying.

he wasn't so clever, he once speeded up his car in order to kill a pheasant. the hapless creature hit his windscreen which shattered and shot out the rear window smashing both to thousands of pieces (pre-laminated stuff) chards of glass.

so why do i mention this? because i enjoy smoking and i enjoy drinking coffee.

pensggs · Joined: 24 Jan 2007 Posts: 361

Old kang, ye ancient one

Enjoy your coffee, enjoy your cigarette; moderate your consumption for your health.

Once upon a time, as a young teenager, I work out that if I do what others want me to do, and I became miserable, I will make all around me miserable. So I do what I think is right for my soul and for my loved ones, the rest of the world can take care of their own soul.

I have a 'passionate and crazy friend'. She takes everything too 'seriously'. In her younger days, she rode bare-back on the horse her mother bought her when she had too much 'moonshine'. Today, she suffers from bad back and short term memory. She still loved her horse but the horse is no more than a memory. Her stables now stand empty filled with debris of her life. Today, she still wished to be buried with her horse. My friend had enjoyed her horse, her life was enriched.

I too have done many 'stupid' things, like getting married at too tender an age. However, it is only the young that can loved with a passion without compromise. As we get older, we draw up a 'demand list' that takes the 'magic' out of love. This passage is part and parcel of me. Today, I liked 'me' very much and the rest of the world can take a 'running jump over the cliff' if they have problems with me.

So old and ancient kang, stay forever young. Enjoy your coffee, enjoy your cigarette. I will enjoy my glass of very good red French wine with my 'Dong Po' belly of pork. I will take grapefruit and aspirin in penance for my sins, as there are still so many things I still want to experience.

Life is to be lived, whatever the price. Live in fear and you are already 'dead'.

pensggs · Joined: 24 Jan 2007 Posts: 361

I have a pet hate, that is to be in the same room as a Chinese 'pseudo man of honour'

These men speak words you like and expect to hear and act like 'man of honour'.

This characteristic trait is especially prevalent in our Chinese world.

These 'pseudo man of honour' projects an image as honourable leaders of men.

Behind closed doors, they betrayed their wives they paid for sexual favours from the meat trade, and claimed that 'this is a badge of a man in control'. They then boast of their betrayal of their wives to others not endowed with the English language skills or knowledge, and easily impressed by their supposed virility.

In front of their friends and in the Chinese society, they project an image as filial sons. However, no one ever knew that once upon a time, their mothers lived in deprivation, in order to give them the best chance in life. No one ever knew that when they gambled away the family wealth and deprived their siblings of the same chance in life.

These 'pseudo man of honour' then become speakers of our Chinese society and boasted of their high IQ as they can speak 'better English' then those they fraternised with. And of course, they will always speak the words you wished to hear.

However, behind closed doors, their wives suffered from depression because these 'pseudo man of honour' project themselves as loving husbands and fathers, and the world do not know of their callouness to their mothers who had sacrificed their life in order for these 'pseudo man of honour' to be leaders of man.

Today, I write to release my outrage at having to see an aged mother of one such man, suffer in silence, as this Chinese pseudo man of honour was the 'apple of her eyes' and this callous attitude of this Chinese pseudo man of honour towards the woman who raised him despite great odds, is being held up as an 'example' of an honourable China man in our UK Chinese society.

Who can we blame but ourselves, that we allowed ourselves to be manipulated by these pseudo man of honour in our Chinese society.

The cantonese description of such pseudo man of honour is 'gaen kwan chi'.

kang dàyé · Posted: Fri Aug 07, 2009 10:30 pm Post subject:

i very glad you posted your pet hate here pensggs, means i can see very quickly if anyone "unfilial types" try to take liberties. no one likes these kinds, they are all too obvious to people who can see.

on a sad note i ran out of cigarettes about ten minutes ago, and its 9 miles to the nearest town with an open shop!!!!!

pensggs · Joined: 24 Jan 2007 Posts: 361

Kang, I apologise for borrowing your 'topic'. I had intended to start a new topic but made a 'error'.

I have just spent the last week dealing with a chap whose 'chance in life' was sacrificed by the mother to give this 'pseudo man of honour' the chance to come to UK to start a new life.

This pseudo man of honour was given the 'family fortune' to built a new life in UK. This pseudo man of honour gambled away the family fortune which would have bought a 'huge house' in UK in the 1960s.

The mother has always favoured this pseudo man of honour and the other son who was the only one with the intellectual ability and the desire to attain acamdamic success was disadvantaged by having no financial support when he needed it most during his developmental years.

Presently, in her hour of need, this pseudo man of honour in our UK Chinese society, uses words such as 'You should not force me to look after my mother' to the other son and it is acceptable in the Westernised society the family is sited in. However, he puffed up his 'egotistic image' in the Chinese society amongst people who are easily impressed by his English language ability.

What set me off on this topic? Whilst I was doing one of my occasional visit with a friend in one of our Chinese 'cash and carry', I was tapped on my shoulder by a woman I initially did not recognised. I was recognised by this woman not by my name, but as the 'sister in law' of this pseudo man of honour.
This woman was a waitress in the Chinese restaurant in the willage of this pseudo man of honour. I met this woman once when I was collecting my rental from the operator of the restaurant. Apparently, this pseudo man of honour had already identified himself as 'the family member'.

I walked away with a smile then. But as I am having to deal with the debris of the destruction caused by this pseudo man of honour, I decided to unload onto a non sounding media.

By the way, I have just read that all the facts we had been told by the opinion makers about 'heart disease' had been wrong. That is heart disease is not caused by high fat diet, but low fat diet. So enjoy your cigarette. Your 9 miles walk or gallop will be good for you.

chunxueping · Joined: 24 Jun 2007 Posts: 749 Location: Beijing, PRC

I think honoured Kong DaYe knows this fact but he still want to enjoy his little "vices." Anyway, who want to live forever. Better to be content than miserable. A little pleasure make for a happy life.

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